Why is it easier for some to maintain sobriety while others often relapse into addiction?

Sobriety – Is It a Matter of Luck?

In the world of addiction therapy, it is often said that staying sober is not a sprint, but a marathon. Some people complete it in one continuous run, while others need to return to the starting line more than once. Does that mean some are stronger and others weaker? Not necessarily. The differences lie in psychology, biology, and environment.

1. Biology and Genetics – A Foundation We Cannot Control

Some people have a greater natural resistance to addiction, others less. Research shows that genetics may account for 40–60% of addiction risk. Brain chemistry also plays a role: if the reward system reacts more intensely to substances, the urge to return can be stronger. This is not an excuse, but a fact – some individuals begin their recovery facing a more demanding opponent from the very start.

2. Psychology – Inner Strength and Emotional Regulation

A person who has learned healthy ways to cope with stress and emotions has a better chance of maintaining sobriety. However, someone who relied on substances for years to suppress problems must suddenly find new strategies. Anxiety, emotional emptiness, and low self-esteem all increase the risk of relapse. That is why therapy focuses not only on abstinence, but also on rebuilding emotional stability and resilience.

3. Environment – Who Is Standing Beside You?

Old social circles, familiar high-risk places, and a lack of family support can feel like walking through a field of landmines. Someone surrounded by supportive family members, peer groups, and a healthy environment has a smoother path. Those left alone often stumble more easily. That is why at Monar in Kębliny we strongly emphasize community and the power of group support.

4. Motivation – “I Have To” or “I Want To”?

Some people enter therapy because they feel they must – due to family pressure, legal consequences, or fear of losing their job. Others seek help because they genuinely want change. This difference matters. External motivation may initiate recovery, but internal motivation determines who reaches the finish line.

5. Relapse – Not Failure, but Feedback

Relapse is not the end. It is a signal that something in the recovery process needs adjustment – perhaps new stress-management tools, healthier routines, stronger support, or deeper therapeutic work. Recovery is not about never falling; it is about always being able to stand up again.

Summary

Why do some people maintain sobriety while others return to addiction? Because everyone begins the journey carrying a different biological, psychological, and social burden. Yet regardless of that burden, everyone has the potential to reach recovery. The key is support, patience, and steady, step-by-step effort.

👉 At Monar in Kębliny near Łódź, we believe there are no “lost causes.” Even if the path is more challenging, everyone can find their own road to freedom.